TLDR: Don’t ask “what’s wrong with me?” but instead, “what system will will help me create what I want?”
The key takeaway here is not that psychology is bad, but dwelling too much into it can be a waste of time.
What I have found is that what most people need is a better system for how to improve their life, and looking at the systems they employ will often reveal the problems that they’re experiencing.
Spending too much time on the why, in the psychology underneath the actions, while interesting, is counterproductive. The systems paradigm shifts attention away from inside the head (psychology and the mind) toward the world outside the head, the world of action.
There’s a whole book on this subject that’s been fascinating to read here: The Power of Systems.
For example: I have heard a client ask me “why can’t i seem to commit to doing X?” And in the past i might delve into why he feels a certain way towards that event. Has he always had a problem with it? Now, I can ask, what’s your system to getting X done? In reviewing that system, it becomes pretty clear why it’s failing.
One of my favorite examples of a great system is Shohei Ohtani’s that he created in elementary school to become a world class baseball player. Did it work? Well, if you don’t know Shohei, he’s the greatest baseball player to live since Babe Ruth. So, yes. Check out the X link below
https://twitter.com/arpangup/status/1989382191306903901
